Wow, you’ve got a lot to celebrate! Either of those life events is huge on its own, so navigating both at the same time can be tricky … but definitely doable, especially with some smart prep work. Before you walk down the aisle, consider these tips on planning and hosting a wedding during pregnancy:

Consider the timing

While there's no right or wrong time to get married when you're expecting, many engaged moms-to-be prefer to get hitched in the second trimester. The reason? Morning sickness should be gone by then (or at least eased up enough so you can face the buffet). If you don't necessarily want everyone to know that you're expecting, getting hitched around the 16-week mark means you might not show yet. 

One more timing tip: If pregnancy fatigue hits you hardest at night, shoot for a daytime event (which is likely less expensive, too!).

Search for comfortable wedding dress styles

Even if you’re not showing when you hit the bridal shop, let the consultant know how far along you’ll be when you tie the knot. She’ll advise you on which size will be best for your belly-to-be.

While you can wear any style you want, baby bumps can look especially elegant in an A-line or empire-waist silhouette, which is snug at the bustline and roomier in the belly. 

No matter which design you prefer for your wedding during pregnancy, you’ll likely feel more comfortable in loose, light fabrics, such as chiffon and crepe. Stiff or heavy materials like taffeta and tulle can up your odds of overheating and dizziness.

If you'd rather keep the focus on you instead of your bump in the photos, opt for some strategic ruching or a big bouquet rather than corsets or shapewear, which aren't advised during pregnancy. 

As far as shoes go, you may need to pump up your pump size to a half- or even a full-size bigger than your pre-pregnancy kicks, since edema can make your feet and ankles swell.

Try to stress less

From choosing the right caterer to picking the most fabulous flowers to perfecting your seating chart, wedding planning can be pretty nerve-racking. But stress and pregnancy isn’t a great combo, so consider toning down the party to something you can handle more easily. Or hire a wedding planner or ask a willing friend (or that fabulous fiancé or fiancée of yours) to take on some of the tougher tasks.

Celebrate smartly as a pregnant bride

Skip the champagne, but keep your water glass full since staying hydrated is important for you and your baby. You can always toast with a non-alcoholic bubbly (like ginger ale or sparkling apple cider) during the reception.

Another reason you’ll want a light, loose wedding dress: You’ll need to pee more than the average bride, and going to the bathroom in a ball gown is tough even without a baby bump.

No matter how busy you get greeting guests, don’t forget to eat. Enlighten your caterer about pregnancy-safe foods and, even if you’re queasy, be sure to eat a protein-and-complex carb snack (like cheese on whole grain crackers) so you’ll have the energy for that first dance as a married lady — and the many to follow.

Speaking of energy, take a load off every once in a while during the party — your guests will understand if you and your belly need a break between dances.

Here’s to a wonderful wedding — and a healthy baby to boot,


Heidi Murkoff